atchka:

The following is an abridged version of my letter to Dan Savage. Rather than engage in a “I hate you/you hate me” pissing match, I am responding only to the inaccurate factual information contained in Dan’s response to Lindy West. This is one of the most exhaustively cited posts…

I love so much about Dan Savage (not sarcasm). Here is how he could improve!

(Source: atchka)

hel-looks:

Anni, 31

“I don’t need to buy clothes, not even second hand, because my friends give me their old ones.

Because everybody in Finland wears black nowadays, I want to wear colours. I like to mix many patterns in the same outfit. Besides checks, I also like dots, stripes and floral prints.”

21 January 2011, Bulevardi

“Why do people think that every religion/culture definitely needs to have some sort of winter holiday that’s comparable to Christmas…”  — Manan Thakkar

the structural system adopted is that of a tree-branch. the propagation of the branching system along the longitudinal section of the conserved building is differentiated in its growth along the transverse section.

(via serie architects / chris lee and kapil gupta: the tote, mumbai)

Mistress Matisse: The Politics of Blowjobs (via sexisnottheenemy)

One thing I long for more of is exploration of blowjobs as dominance and not submission. Our society really does color the act of giving the blowjob as submissive. In the English language we even say you are “giving” it as if you are the one who is surrendering the use of your mouth.

But honestly? Viewed from angle where the penis isn’t automatically the most powerful, potent thing in the world and a sign of dominance just by virtue of being a penis (thus associated with masculinity and manhood even though some women or non-binary folk have penises), it’s actually the other way around, I think. 

A consenting blowjob is someone allowing their penis to be inside of your mouth. Your mouth. It’s someone giving over a very intimate and private part of their bodies to your oral ministrations - you can lick, suck, bite, nibble, nuzzle, stroke, kiss, tease. You can go slow or fast, but at that moment, you’re pretty much in possession of one of the most sensitive parts of that person’s body, and definitely one that has a lot of significance to them. How is that, outside of a context of overt and explicit domination (ie, a situation where one partner pleasures another is part of their submission to said partner) a submissive act all by itself?

Allowing a penis in someone else’s mouth in a consensual situation is a very trusting act. Yes, it’s also trust for the person owning the mouth to agree and want to use their mouth to create sensations on that penis (or even on the other parts of the genitals, scrotum or anus), but I mean, damn. You’re trusting that body part to someone else’s mouth knowing that if they break that trust, it is going to hurt. And bad.

The fact that so many penis owners go around giving their penises over to so many mouths thinking that it makes them the dominant one seems like the height of arrogance to me. I may be on my knees, but which one of us has full and unfettered access to the other’s most sensitive parts and can do all manner of things, pleasant or unpleasant to them, at that moment? 

Explain to me again how that’s submissive? 

(via madamethursday)

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